Domestic Violence Act

This is good news for us. Thank you Renukaji. but i saw some men are already active and started to post aginst us here.

http://dvact.awardspace.com/

Please do something. This law should not be changed.

Sunita

5 Questions a Man should Never ask his Woman

5 questions a man should never ask his woman - for you never know what she might make of it

Let's face it, women have the ability to read much more into a question than is intended. For instance, a guy asks what the time is, and she hears, "I'm bored, I want to leave, I wonder if this relationship is working for me, I think I may be able to escape in the next few minutes, I wonder what I am doing here?" He wanted to know what the time was, because he needs to call up his client and fix up the meeting for the following day.

So what do the following questions mean to women?

Are you going to take long?
She hears : I am waiting for you outside while you are busy packing the baby's bag, sorting out the dog, wrapping the birthday present, dealing with YOUR mother's phonecall and locking the house. What is taking you so long?

Why does this question irritate women?
This question merely reveals the partner’s complete lack of understanding about what it takes to get ready to go on the road. And this is what makes women angry. Leave it to the man in your life, and you will arrive at the party without a present, without clean nappies for the baby, and, to top it all, a call from your neighbours telling you that your house has been broken into.

Don't you think you should start running again?
She hears : You are getting fat and I think it is because you are not getting enough exercise. Pick up two more kilos and I am out of here.

Why does this question irritate women?
 It makes them feel that they are being prescribed to on how they should look, what they should wear in order to be found acceptable. Men just don't understand that many women deal with PMS, baby blues or the difficult boss and bitchy colleagues by eating a second slice of chocolate cake, followed by a cream caramel, rum 'n raisin ice cream and rounded off with a gulab jamun.

What's for dinner?
She hears: Your place is in the kitchen. I don't care if you work a full day like I do, dinner is your responsibility and I am hungry.

Why does this question irritate women?
It makes them feel as if the bulk of the household responsibilities is still theirs, even if they work fulltime or earn more than their husbands. Especially if they shopped for the food, cooked yesterday and did the washing of clothes thrice in the last one week.

What was your previous boyfriend like?
She hears: I don't like the thought of your being with anyone else, even if I didn't know you then. I really want to hear that he was a right royal jerk, useless in bed, couldn't get himself a good job and stay, and was generally disliked by all your family and friends.

Why does this question irritate women?
It makes them feel cornered - previous boyfriends are actually private territory and have nothing to do with present relationships. When women are hesitant to discuss previous relationships, men often react as if they are somehow being excluded and as if the woman has something to hide. We all have secrets and private things about which we do not wish to talk to anyone.

Who was that you were talking to?
She hears: I don't trust you. I don't like you talking to other men. You're mine, mine, mine and don't you forget it. How much did that smile really mean?

Why does this question irritate women?
It makes them feel as if they are being treated like possessions and not human beings. Everyone needs friends and women certainly do not want to sleep with every man they smile at. Heavens, that would even include that ugly 40-year-old doodh-wala who wakes them up every morning.

Mumbai Mirror
Jan 12, 2006

Interpol notice in dowry case

MUMBAI: A 27-year-old IT professional Abhijeet Khatav along with his parents, who are based in Sydney and are of Australian nationality, have been listed by the Interpol as wanted for demanding dowry from an Indian.

This is probably the first case where an Interpol notice has been issued in a dowry case, city police said.

Usually, a red-corner notice is issued against those accused in crimes like drug trafficking, bomb blasts, hijacking, child sexual abuse, terrorist activities, illegal remittance of foreign exchange, etc.

The request for a red-corner notice was issued on the basis of a complaint filed with the Borivli police station. Interpol is expected to issue a request to the Australian police for their extradition.

Kamal Bansode, police inspector attached to Borivli police station, said the complainant, Sapna (name changed), has named husband, Abhijeet, father-in-law Suresh Khatav (57), and mother-in-law Chhaya (55).

In her complaint, Sapna said that her husband, who works as Credit Officer with M/s Haier Electricals in Sydney, had demanded Rs 5 lakh as dowry after the marriage.

She further alleged that her mother-in-law Chhaya had taken away her jewellery worth Rs 85,000, while Abhijeet had cast aspersions on her integrity.

"Abhijeet's uncle, Dashrath, had gone to meet relatives in Kolhapur, where he saw Sapna for the first time.

As the Khatavs had asked him to look for a suitable girl for Abhijeet, he recommended her name for Abhijeet to his brother," said inspector Bansode.

Abhijeet and Sapna met each other through video conferencing for the first time. They married on December 5, 2003, after which the couple went to Goa for a honeymoon. Within a week of the wedding, Abhijeet allegedly told her that he suspected her character.

He allegedly also demanded Rs 5 lakh as dowry. When she approached police, Abhijeet apologised and promised that he would send a visa for her once he reached Australia.

Months after Abhijeet and his family left for Australia, she received a letter from the Australian embassy, informing her that a visa could not issued to her as her husband had told Australian officials that the marriage would be annulled soon.

It was then that Sapna approached the Borivli police and lodged a complaint against Abhijeet and his parents on May 21, 2004.

The Borivili metropolitan magistrate on July 21 last year issued non-bailable warrants against the three accused.

Later, the extradition cell of the city crime branch took charge and sent a request to the CBI to issue a red-corner notice against the three accused.

Sapna who continued with her education in the meanwhile stays with her parents in Kolhapur.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/1344600.cms

7 years jail for a 25 year old man for NOT marrying a girl

Divorced Christian woman gets Rs 50 lakh package

Mumbai, Dec 7: IN A landmark ruling that recognises a woman's right along with her adult daughters to the matrimonial home even after divorce, the Bombay High Court has awarded a package of Rs 50 lakh to Madhavi Dudani and her two daughters. The package, the largest to be awarded to children of litigants, according to Advocate Neelima Datta, came after 14 years of a hard-fought legal battle.

Justices H.L. Gokhale and R.S. Dalvi's order on November 25 is a milestone on another crucial front: Madhavi was born a Christian but was married as per Hindu Vedic rites. And though Ramesh Dudani, her former husband, argued that the marriage was null and void since she was a Christian at the time of marriage and Section 2 of the Hindu Marriage Act says that marriage under that provision can only be between two Hindus, the marriage was held to be valid.

Dudani, a businessman, has been ordered to buy a self-contained flat of at least 600 sq ft in Andheri (W) or Juhu Vile Parle "in a good housing society" in the name of Madhavi and their two daughters by April-end 2006. In case he can't, he shall deposit an amount of Rs 30 lakh in court. He also has to deposit Rs 10 lakh each in the name of his two daughters, Richa and Hritu, in RBI bonds for six years and hand over the bonds to them by the April-end 2006.

The court has also ordered that Dudani can't sell or part with his bungalow in Indu Park Cooperative Housing Society in Four Bungalows, Andheri.

This amount of Rs 50 lakh is therefore secured by creating a charge on this property. In case he fails to buy a house or deposit the Rs 30 lakh and invest in bonds, Madhavi can get possession of the first floor of the bungalow in lieu of the flat. However, Madhavi consented to Dudani's proposal to provide a guarantee from a nationalised bank for Rs 50 lakh to the Registrar General of the HC in lieu of the charge on the bungalow.

Madhavi (formerly Magdalene Periera) married Dudani (a divorcee) in 1983 in a temple before several guests and her parents. This was followed by a church ceremony. After a decade together, Madhavi filed a petition in the Family Court asking for judicial separation, maintenance for herself and their daughters and partitioning the matrimonial home as she had been thrown out. The Family Court held that both petitions were outside its jurisdiction but that since Madhavi was unable to recite a single Hindu shloka or mantra and she only participated in but did not perform poojas or havans, the marriage was invalid. Madhavi appealed against this in the high court.

The deal

HC awarded Rs 50 lakh package to a man's ex-wife and two daughters, part of which is for a home for them

The court held the 1983 marriage valid though it was conducted as per Hindu Marriage Act and the bride was Christian

HT

http://www.mangalorean.com/news.php?newsid=21029&newstype=local

Man sues ex-wife, police and witnesses

CHANDIGARH: For Kuldip Babbar who fought a five-year long legal battle in courts to prove his innocence, it's payback time.

After a local court acquitted him and his family of all charges of dowry harassment last year, Kuldip Babbar, 42, has now moved court against the UT police, his former wife and 16 other witnesses seeking damages worth Rs 2 crore (Rs 50 lakh each for his aged father, two sisters and himself) for defaming and falsely implicating him and putting his family through a harrowing time for more than five years.

Babbar has also sited mental harassment, loss of livelihood and income and expenditure incurred while defending the 'malicious prosecution' as reasons for seeking the damages.

Admitting the petition, Civil Judge (Senior Division) RK Bhankar issued notices to the UT IG, SSP, SHO (Sector 19 police station), Reena and other defendants, summoning them for appearance in court on February 14, 2006.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/1321347.cms

http://498a.org

I found a funniest site belong to some Indian men group.

http://www.498a.org

i do not know what they they trying to prove it by this funniest name 498A.

After all its mens world.

Sunita

P I L Against Dowry Prohibition Act (IPC-498A)

By accident i found a public Interest litigation on one of the men support group site

http://mynation.net/pil/pil.php

These men trying to file a PIL, against ONLY women support law against DOWRY.

these men trying to scrap this 498A. This law is scraped then no women is safe, or we cann`t trap men with any other law.

so i call all women and make sure at any cost this Law will stay.

Sunita.

NCW says no to dilution of anti-dowry law

NCW says no to dilution of anti-dowry law
 
AASHA KHOSA         


Posted online: Friday, November 25, 2005 at 0308 hours IST



NEW DELHI, NOVEMBER 24: The National Commission for Women (NCW) and
womens' groups have again rejected suggestions to dilute the anti-
dowry law, saying it would be an insult to thousands of women who
are killed by greedy in-laws.

The Commission, which kicked off consultations for reviewing the
Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961, rather asserted that the law needs to
be made more stringent.



Justice Malimath in his report on review of the criminal justice
system had suggested that Section 498A be made bailable and non-
compoundable as it was being misused too.

``Demands are made from the woman's family by in-laws for years
after the marriage and this does not constitute dowry under existing
laws,'' NCW chairperson Girija Vyas said.

``For this reason the NCW wants that the very definition of dowry be
widened.''

The consultations were attended by chairpersons of all the state
women commissions, directors-general of police, and NGOs engaged in
ensuring women their rights.

``The meeting rejected, in one voice, the suggestion to make bride-
burning a bailable and non-compoundable crime,'' Vyas told the
Express. ``In fact, we are doubly sure now that Section 498A is the
only weapon to avenge the killing of women for dowry.''

Speakers at the meeting said, ``Which law is immune to being
misused, and why target a pro-women legislation?''

However, Vyas said the government could streamline the
implementation of dowry laws to minimise misuse. Vyas said that even
today, ``the bulk of criminal cases pertaining to women are about
dowry''.

The key points raised at the meeting:

• Massive overhauling of anti-dowry laws to address to the changing
times where greedy in-laws have found new ways to circumvent
existing laws

• Members of legislatures, and public servants should be made to
sign a mandatory declaration that they have not asked for dowry at
the time of their of children's marriage

• Men and women holding public offices should conduct marriages
without vulgar display of wealth

• A woman who has slapped charges of dowry harassment on her in-laws
should be free to go to court where her parents reside

• Strict guidelines should be issued to the police for investigation
cases of dowry deaths on the lines of one existing for custodial
deaths.
http://www.indianexpress.com/full_story.php?content_id=82654

Drunk women can’t cry rape

Women have been warned that binge drinking could cost them the right to complain of being raped.
   “Drunken consent is still consent,” a jury was told as the prosecution abandoned a rape trial involving a drama student and a security guard.
   The guard, a complete stranger, had sex with the 21-year-old woman while she was lying unconscious in a corridor outside her flat in a university hall of residence.
   She was adamant she had not consented, telling Swansea Crown Court: “If I had wanted to sleep with him I would have taken the few steps to my bedroom.”
   But because she had lost consciousness and could not even remember having intercourse, prosecutor Huw Rees said the case against 20-year-old Ryairi Dougal had to be halted. The judge, Justice Roderick Evans, said he agreed with the prosecution and instructed the jury to return a verdict of not guilty “even if you don’t agree.”
   The woman, 21, had said she drank “small vodkas” and a glass of wine while getting ready for a party at the arts centre of Aberystwyth University, in west Wales.
   After posing for photographs with fellow students and lecturers on the steps outside the centre she went to the top floor and the party.
   After just one glass of wine she began to feel unwell and headed for the toilets, where she slipped over. By now she felt “more drunk than ever before in my life.”
   She told the jury: “My dress was in a state and I wanted to leave. I went onto a patio for some fresh air. I was losing focus and very dizzy.” A female member of staff said she would find someone to walk her the short distance home and came back with Dougal, also a student who was working that night as a guard.
   The pair walked to her block of flats. She said she could not remember climbing the stairs, but could recall fumbling for her keys outside the door to her bedsit.
   There was little dispute about what happened next. Dougal, from County Donegal, Northern Ireland, had sexual intercourse with her in the corridor.
   The woman said she had passed out but came round briefly to be aware that “something was happening but I didn’t know what.” She lost consciousness again.
   Later, after Dougal had left, she went to sleep on top of books left on her bed. Dally Mail, London

http://epaperdaily.timesofindia.com/Daily/skins/TOI/navigator.asp?Daily=CAP&login=satveerd

Parents accused of selling teenage girl

New Delhi, November 20
A teenaged girl has accused her parents of selling her to a man for Rs 35,000 in the guise of marriage. A court in the Capital has given the custody of the girl to a destitutes’ home here disregarding her father’s pleas for her custody.

The girl, now lodged in Nirmal Chayya here, told the court that she was taken to Patna and sold to a middle-aged man in the name of marriage, her counsel Shalini Saxena alleged.

However, her parents have contended that she had eloped with a neighbour. They also contradicted her claim that she was an illiterate.

In fact a month after the said “marriage” she escaped from the man and reached her parents home in East Delhi where they refused to take her in, the counsel alleged. Angered by her own parents’ refusal, the girl stormed out of her home.

“I don’t want to see my parents, who had at first sold me and later connived to send me back to my unhappiness,” the counsel quoted the girl as having told the court.

A missing report was filed on the November 12 by her parents at Anand Vihar police station. On coming to know of it, the girl surrendered in court on her counsel’s advice.

“She came to me and told me that she wanted a lady lawyer to tell the court her side of the story,” her counsel said. According to the counsel, the girl told the court that she was 18 years.

When the court asked her to produce documentary proof of her age, the victim stated that “no one keeps records of births in our village in Bihar,” the counsel added.

http://www.tribuneindia.com/2005/20051121/delhi.htm#4

Rape? In UK, they blame it on women

A third of people in the UK believe a woman is partially or completely to blame for being raped if she has behaved in a flirtatious manner, according to ‘shocking’ research.
   More than a quarter also believe a woman is at least partly responsible for being raped if she wears sexy or revealing clothing, or is drunk, the ICM study found.
   One in five thinks a woman is partly to blame if it is known she has many sexual partners, while more than a third believe she is responsible to some degree if she has clearly failed to say ‘no’ to the man.
   In each of these scenarios a slightly greater proportion of men than women held these views — except when it came to being drunk, when it was equal. In fact, more women (5%) than men (3%) thought a woman was ‘totally responsible’ for being raped if she was intoxicated.
   Support groups described the findings as ‘alarming’ and ‘appalling’.
   The national charity Victim Support urged criminal justice professionals and healthcare workers to “consider how best to educate Bijit Kundu people about the terrible impact of rape, with a view to changing these attitudes.” The opinion poll, commissioned by Amnesty International, also revealed that the vast majority of the British population has no idea how many women are raped every year in the UK.
Almost all, 96%, of respondents said they either did not know the true extent of rape or thought it was far lower than the true figure. Only 4% even thought the number of women raped exceeded 10,000. The number of recorded rapes in 2004-05 was more than 12,000 and the 2001 British Crime S u r ve y estimated that just 15% of rapes come to the attention of the police.
Amnesty International UK director Kate Allen said the poll, part of its Stop Violence Against Women campaign, had uncovered ‘disturbing attitudes’.
She said: “It is shocking that so many people will lay the blame for being raped at the feet of women themselves and the government must launch a new drive to counteract this sexist ‘blame culture’.”

Daily Mail, London

http://epaperdaily.timesofindia.com/Daily/skins/TOI/navigator.asp?Daily=CAP&login=satveerd

Indian women has NO rights

Unfaithfully yours - Indian women

Women — married ones at least — are getting frisky in Mumbai: according to the Bandra family court, while in 1995 “adulterous” women were responsible for divorces in every fifth case, now they are involved in one in every third case. What’s more, a detailed analysis of case files also reveals that indulging in not one but multiple extra-marital affairs is becoming common.

There’s also data to prove that marriages are getting more fragile. These days, one out of three marriages break up due to infidelity. In 1995, this number was one in seven.

Counsellors in the family court, who handle roughly 400 cases each a year, believe changes in social values are responsible for this trend. “Couples are now far more impatient. If thing are not working out in their marriage, they don’t hesitate to look outside,” says Madhavi Desai, a family court counsellor. Women have also become more conscious of their sexual needs and are comfortable getting into a “better relationship”.

In 2004, 1,122 of a total of 3,400 divorce cases were filed due to adultery; women constituted 33 per cent. Of the 2,055 divorce cases filed in 1995, 308 were due to adultery of which unfaithful women comprised 20 per cent. This trend is not restricted to any particular class — but is more prevalent in upper socio-economic classes.

Time spent at work is also a contributor to the rise in adultery, with people developing closer bonds with colleagues. “Sharing a good professional vibe with a colleague of the opposite sex is usually how an extra-marital affair begins,” says marriage counsellor Rajan Bhonsle.

http://www.hindustantimes.com/news/181_1551427,000600010004.htm

Indian men are Affraid of us

I found this BLOG somewhere on net written by someone, ofcourse some indian man,

Now we know these men are Affraid of us. they do not tolerate our growth, government support for indian women.

As per them Feminism....is

Feminism means Whole Sale Free Lincence of Adultrity Relationship.

Feminism means Whole Sale Free Lincence to grab the Husband Money by Legal Terrorism .

Feminism Means Whole Sale Free Lincence for Killing the Child .

Feminisam Means Whole Sale Free Lincence for refuse to give the Child Mother Milk .

Feminism menas forcing a Child to Grow under Single parenting System .

Feminisam means Elder abuse – sending old age , sick Parents out of house .

Feminism means sending Child and Pregent Sister to the jail without any Investigation .

Feminism means to make the Institution of Marriage to a legal Postitution ( Live in relationshp )

Feminism means to hide the actual truth . … like that a lot more are there!!.

I think now they relaise our strength.

To all indian men, just wait and watch what we are going to do.

Biased Judgement Against women

Now, husband is entitled to get maintenance

November 17, 2005 19:18 IST


A husband who is unable to support himself is entitled to get
maintenance from his earning wife during the proceedings of the
matrimonial dispute, the Allahabad high court ruled on Thursday.

On a petition filed by one Santosh Kumar Gupta seeking maintenance
from his working wife on the ground that his income was too meagre to
enable him to maintain himself, the Lucknow bench of the court
recently ruled that the provision of interim maintenance during
proceedings of the matrimonial disputes was applicable to both the
spouses.

Also read: Hope for victimised husbands
The single-judge Bench headed by Justice D P Singh directed the wife
to pay Rs 2,000 per month to Kumar, an employee in the state owned
Uptron Corporation, which had been declared a sick unit following
which the petitioner was getting only Rs 1,000 per month.

His wife, who works in a bank and draws a salary of Rs 13,000 per
month, had filed the divorce petition against him in a family court.

Harassed by wife? Contact the men's cell
The husband also filed an application before the court seeking
direction to the wife to pay him maintenance and litigation expenses.

The family court, however, rejected the husband's application.

http://in.rediff.com/news/2005/nov/17hus.htm

Woman convicted of rape

In a landmark case a 23-year-old woman has been convicted by a Bergen court for the rape of a 31-year-old man.

Some Men Websites Against Women.

There is mass propaganda is going on against women world over, these men are just jelous about Feminism and Women Freedom

We women have to beware of these sites.

http://www.fathersforlife.org
http://www.angryharry.com
http://www.mensactivism.org

http://www.mynation.net
http://www.saveindianfamily.com
http://www.saveindianfamily.org
http://dowry-law-misuse.tripod.com
http://misuseof498a.clawz.com
http://victims-of-law.blogspot.com

Sunita

Indian men are Against Women FREEDOM

Wife’s Lib makes Indian divorce soar
Amrit Dhillon, New Delhi
 
 
 
WHEN Anil Srivastav, a financier, faced his wife in a New Delhi court yesterday for the final hearing to end their seven-year marriage, he knew where to pin the blame for the breakdown: women’s liberation.
His wife, Anjali, 26, is a marketing executive who often works until late at night and travels for her job. Anil, 28, says he had no problem with her career but wanted her to come home earlier to spend time with their six-year-old son. What also rankled was her reluctance to perform puja (prayers) and wear a sari when with older members of his family.

 
 
“I don’t mind if she roams around in shorts or jeans when we’re with friends, but I expected her to wear traditional clothes in front of my parents,” he said. “Whenever I asked her to follow any Indian tradition, she’d ask, ‘Why?’ I’m all for working women and I know society is changing, but we have to preserve our culture.”

Indian marriage is in crisis. More and more young couples like the Srivastavs are getting divorced. Although no reliable national statistics are available, the number of divorces within the first year of marriage have risen by around 30% since 2000. Seven out of 10 involve couples aged 25 to 35.

These statistics are all the more shocking considering Indian society’s obsession with marriage. Weddings, which often last for days, are both highly expensive and lavish by western standards.

Traditionally to be unmarried was to be a circus freak, a divorced man was a curiosity and a divorcée was viewed as a painted Jezebel. But such perceptions are changing, even though some 95% of marriages remain arranged.

For centuries Indian women were expected to “adjust” to their husbands — a classic euphemism meaning a bride must bend to the will of her husband and in-laws and endure virtually anything short of insanity or depravity. But young, educated, urban women lack their mothers’ docility.

The new woman is smart, has an MBA, wears designer clothes, drives herself around town and sips chardonnay in funky bars. Increasingly economically independent, she is no longer prepared to remain in an unhappy marriage.

“Women are driving the change. They are the ones questioning the old patterns and demanding change, while Indian men still want them to follow some 16th-century model of marital behaviour,” says Shobhaa De, a former “bonkbuster” author whose marriage manual, Spouse: The Truth About Marriage, is soaring up the bestsellers list.

A short, light, breezy read aimed at the middle classes, Spouse has sold 15,000 copies in a week. De, who claims to have been “blown away” by the book’s success, says: “Indian couples are confused and bewildered. With women changing so radically, the men are really struggling to adapt.”

The onus, according to De, is on men to change. “They have to realise that women no longer need marriage as a security blanket or as a meal ticket,” she said. “Women can pay their own way, pay their own bills. What they want now from marriage is respect and equality.”

Take Alisha Kapoor, 32, who has divorced her husband after four years of marriage because she considers they are temperamentally incompatible and want different things out of life.

“I like stability and a settled life,” she said. “His lifestyle is wild and anarchic and we just couldn’t get along. My parents supported me. My mother told me if I was unhappy I should get out while I was still young.”

Many males appear reluctant to move with the times. In a recent survey of men in 11 cities, 72% said they expected their brides to be virgins. Asked if they would marry a woman who admitted to having had pre-marital sex, 77% said “No”.

Subhashini Ali, a women’s rights activist, accuses men of trying to have the best of both worlds: “It suits them to continue with the old ways. They want their wives to work because they need a second income for a glamorous lifestyle, but they hate it when she comes home late from the office, puts her career first or doesn’t grovel in front of her mother-in-law.”

It is not that Indian women are abandoning all traditional notions. Most women still accept that they will probably live with their in-laws; and many would still not dream of eating before first serving their husbands. Some 78% of young people polled in a survey last year said it was “very important” for their spouses to be accepted by their families.

The question is how adept will Indian men be at the kind of “adjusting” that used to be expected of women. “It’s going to very difficult,” says De. “They have been mollycoddled for centuries by their mothers and wives. But this is their wake-up call.”

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,2089-1502387,00.html

Biased Media Report against women.

http://dnaindia.com/report.asp?NewsID=8337&CatID=1

The double-edged rape-ier

Seema Kamdar
Friday, November 04, 2005  00:37 IST

One more Step towards Women Liberation

'Working' towards a divorce?

Ushma Sanghani

[ Tuesday, August 09, 2005 10:48:02 pmTIMES NEWS NETWORK ]

A recent study reveals that women are opting for divorce if they feel they are in an untenable situation. And they are happier with the decision. Hyderabad Times finds out more...

Divorce is a painful and unhappy experience for both parties involved. That said, it is also true that where in the past the majority of women would bear it, today they are asserting themselves. It is, therefore, not surprising that a recent survey conducted by European Sociological Review has found it's the working women who have a higher chance of divorce than homemakers. Having fought at workplace for survival, growth and identity, isn't it natural that these women have higher expectations from both their partners and themselves?

Psychiatrist Shakila Naidu throws some light on the trend. "Financial independence is the biggest difference between the two groups of women. Financial dependence has been linked to submissive attitudes. Also, there was a certain amount of social stigma attached to those who rightfully asked to be acknowledged as individuals. Nowadays, the girl's family encourages her to end a meaningless or painful relationship, as a support system is already in place," she explains.

However, some argue that since the working-woman is on a financially sound footing and is more confident and satisfied – professionally – shouldn't they be more understanding about various life situations? Says Shakila Naidu, "Sometimes, the contrast between the woman's smooth professional life and compromiseridden personal life is too much. This leads to a sense of dissonance, which dissipates only once things get resolved either ways. There is a sense of loss but for this woman any compromise on the personal front would be anathema."

Marriage counsellor Kamlakar validates the findings of the study saying, "Most couples who come for marriage counselling are working couples." He feels that men, too, find themselves in a dilemma. "In keeping with the times, men want a smart working wife. On the other hand, the innate archetype is still alive and they also desire to be revered and waited upon by their wives." The best way to deal with the scenario, according to Kamlakar, is to try and figure out the expectations of both parties and be comfortable with each other before tying the knot.

In the 'honeymoon' period, couples tend to camouflage any feeling of unease or discomfort with one another. But soon, the rose-tinted glasses come off, and reality bites as the couple starts to fight over money and property. Does that mean the working-woman is materialistic? Another recent study suggests that post divorce, 18 per cent of men are unhappy but only 14 per cent of divorced women feel the same. Says Kamlakar, putting things into perspective, "It probably means that women are emotionally stronger. While working-women get over their feelings of dependence, men, owing to years of 'returning home to hearth and wife,' find it difficult to break clichés. As a result, even post divorce it's the men who find it harder to adjust."

Shakila feels that parents are increasingly encouraging their daughters to challenge stereotypes and take up different roles and occupations. "Independence training starts young," she says.

Milind Gokhale, an advocate, feels the law needs to change with times, "Most of the laws were suited to the era they were framed in. But today women have become smarter and are misusing the law against men. A woman can file a case of harassment against a man and action is taken immediately."

So, while alimony issues are still prickly with men claiming that women get away with a preferential treatment be it in terms of law enforcement or alimony, women are justifying the trend as both liberating and long overdue.
hyderabadtimes@indiatimes.com

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/1196112.cms

Replace Rape with sexual assault in IPC

http://www.indianexpress.com/print.php?content_id=81110

National Network

Replace rape with sexual assault in IPC, says NCW

Meeting: Word ‘rape’ is derogatory to women, say members

AASHA KHOSA

NEW DELHI, OCTOBER 30 Replace the word ‘‘rape’’ with ‘‘sexual assault’’ in various sections of the Indian Penal Code (IPC). This was a major recommendation made at a meeting, sponsored by the National Commission for Women (NCW), held here yesterday to finalise the review of ‘‘rape laws’’. Women activists at the meeting said the word ‘‘rape’’ was derogatory to women. The Home Minister, and the police chiefs of all the states yesterday endorsed the recommendations drafted by the NCW. The recommendations, considered okayed, would be sent to the Centre for making amendments to the relevant laws. Home Minister Shivraj Patil had shown interest in the draft prepared by the NCW in consultation with women’s groups. As such, there is no single law to deal with this ghastly crime against women in India, and cases are dealt under various sections of the law. But a representative of the National Commission for Scheduled Castes told the conference that ‘‘making changes in the IPC would not make any difference and women’s groups should instead try for a specific bill on the lines of laws meant for protecting SCs and STs, to deal with atrocities on women.’’ The key changes suggested by the NCW are: • The definition of rape should be widened and not be restricted to vaginal penetration. One suggestion was that oral and anal penetration, or even body contact, should be considered ‘‘sexual assault.’’ • Sexual assault should be punishable with a minimum of 10 years in prison and a maximum of life term. • The age factor should be looked into more carefully in abduction-cum-rape cases as existing law is very often misused by rapists. • Buying sexual favours (from sex-workers) should also be considered sexual assault. • Video and audio recordings of the victim’s statement should be admitted in court as evidence to save her from embarrassing ‘‘cross examinations.’’ • Investigation and trial of the victim should be a time-bound affair and public servants held accountable for any lapse. However, a grey area of the proposed changes was a clause dealing with homosexuals. In India, homosexuality is illegal and many participants of the meeting questioned a recommendation (dropping section 377 of the IPC) that would make it legal. But NCW chairperson Girija Vyas said that ‘‘this was not intended’’ and she would look into it before forwarding the recommendations.

We have the law. To what effect?

NIRMALA SITHARAMAN

Parliament has passed the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Bill. We can pat ourselves that as a nation we have risen to ‘protect’ women, this time from domestic violence. However, can the legislation in the present form offer any extra protection to women?

The worst form of harassment is the condition which some women are subjected to in their homes. In our country, a woman enters a marital home leaving her maternal household. Most Indian women are conditioned “to enter and adjust” to this new surrounding. Many others face difficulties. It is here that they need protection. The abuse a woman undergoes — physical, sexual, verbal, emotional and economic — are rightly brought under the rubric of “domestic violence.” But the debate is about how effective, in practice, will be the protection envisaged by this bill.

Man moves court against wife

Fatehabad, October 28
The incidents of a wife suing her husband for maltreatment or domestic violence are common, but for a charge, a husband today lodged a criminal complaint against his wife in a local court alleging highhandedness by his wife.

The court has fixed the case for hearing on January 4, 2006. Guldeep, a resident of Mohamadpur Rohi village today appeared in the court of the Judicial Magistrate, Ms Ritu Y.K. Bahl, with a criminal complaint under Section 211 of the Indian Penal Code against his wife Bimla Devi.

The complaint inter-alia said he was married to Bimla on June 17, 1993, but his wife had not stayed with him for long during this period. The complainant alleged that his father-in-law was a greedy person and (he wanted to grab) his property and with that motive in mind he used to instigate his daughter against him.

He alleged that his wife had lodged an FIR against him, his father Garib Dass, mother Nanhi and brothers Ranjit and Bakshish under the Dowry Act on November 6, 1995.

Guldeep further alleged that the case under Sections 498A and 406 of the IPC was totally false and lodged with an intention to harass and humiliate him and his family members.

He said he and his family members were acquitted by the court in that case as the court found them innocent, but as the case was in process, his father Garib Dass died due to the humiliation.

He said his wife had filed a false criminal case against him and his family knew fully well that her allegations were untrue.

Life imprisonment for a woman for killing her mother-in-law

Mangalore, Oct. 26: A district court has sentenced a woman to life imprisonment for killing her mother-in-law who used to subject her to continuous mental and physical torture.

The convict has been identified as Noor Jahan of Kuppepadavu. It is learnt, Noor Jahan who was fed up with the constant torture of her mother-in-law Bibi had thrashed the woman with a wooden club on 31-1-2000 following which the seriously injured woman had died in the hospital.

The Bajpe police had then filed a charge sheet against the accused. Though she had earlier been released on bail, now she is once again behind bars following the life imprisonment verdict.

Our Correspondent

http://www.mangalorean.com/news.php?newsid=20051&newstype=local

Rebel indian woman

CHHINDWADA (MADHYA PRADESH): Same sex relationships are still looked down upon in India, yet there are a few who have the courage to rebel against this societal prejudice even in a remote place like Chhindwada, a conservative town in Madhya Pradesh.

Two girls, Jyoti and Savita here have asserted their rights to live as a same sex couple with the police supporting them.

When Jyoti and Savita went missing 10 days back, their worried parents went to the Parasia police station to lodge a complaint. But they were surprised to find the girls in the safe custody of the police.

The girls have refused to return to their homes and have been living at the police station for the last 10 days.

The girls, neighbours in Ambada locality of Chhindwada, became friendly five years back. The relationship flourished despite their parents berating them frequently.

A fortnight back Jyoti came to know that her parents wanted her to get married to a youth from Jhansi in Uttar Pradesh. She protested and told her parents that she wanted to live with Savita for the rest of her life.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/1274106.cms

Damage to Indian Image.

I found some of the Organisations belong to some fanatic men, so called Techies try to bring bad name to Indian Image abroad.

They are spreading wrong message to western media.

I have seen many of their posting here in IndiaTalking Blog and else where.

They keep on telling women misused laws, women harass their husbands and in laws,

They keep on saying women protection laws like IPC-498A and Domestic violence bills are biased laws.

Sunita.

Fury of a Women

Fury (Noun)

"hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"

Just Remember,

Katrina, Rita, Wilma...... Ask US government

Wife charged for husband guilt

I`m Against these biased Laws, women is charged for husbands mistake.   Sunita.   Wife Jailed For Supporting Rape
New Delhi, Oct. 19: A Delhi court has sentenced a woman to seven years in jail for conspiring with and abetting her husband to rape another woman. The court also fined Sarla Rs 1,500, observing that being a woman, she cannot be held guilty of gangrape, but can be convicted of criminal conspiracy. Sarla’s husband, Dhan Bahadur, has already been declared a proclaimed offender and he has been evading arrest. The victim, a resident of Bengal, came to Delhi two years ago to live with her sister in Govindpuri and got a job at a factory in Okhla, where her sister and Sarla worked. Both the victim and Sarla left their jobs soon. On July 27, 2003, they went out in search of new job and after an unsuccessful day, she stayed at Sarla’s house for the night. Later that night, Dhan Bahadur gagged and raped her PTI http://www.mangalorean.com/news.php?newstype=local&newsid=19863&PHPSESSID=7dad14da26719c03e0cc141199a6ab09

Wake Up NCW...!

Where is our NCW....? or women organisations,

Wakeup all women, these men are spreading wrong message to media.

we have take Action, when they are still novice in thier efforts, otherwise our hard earned laws like IPC-498a, Rape and DV bill will be scraped soon.

Arise, Awake and fight back.

Sunita.

http://www.newindpress.com/Newsitems.asp?IEP20051018114857&Title=Nation&Topic=0&JAIPUR:~For~ages,~it's~been~the~women~who~have~been~silent~sufferers.~But~today~it~is~the~men~who~are~crying~hoarse~about~their~'tormenting'~wives....

Harassed husbands club together in Jaipur
Wednesday October 19 2005 00:00 IST
IANS

JAIPUR: For ages, it's been the women who have been silent
sufferers. But today it is the men who are crying hoarse about
their 'tormenting' wives.

And these harassed husbands have now come together in Jaipur to form
Sangya Balya, an organisation meant to save them from their
torturous wives.

This unique organisation will provide all sympathetic and legal aid
to the stressed husbands. The organisation has already received over
650 complaints from the victims in the mere four months of its
existence. The centre has two legal advisors.

"Inspired by a similar organisation in Bangalore, I decided to start
this centre in the city. Husbands who are victims at the hands of
their wives can be found everywhere," Abhishek, one of the founders
of this organization, told IANS.

"Almost 95 percent of the cases here are about wives either
demanding money after divorce or a share in their husband's
property," Abhishek, who only uses his first name, added.

He also said several wives just demand separation and not divorce so
that their husbands would not be able to settle in their lives ever
again.

A harassed husband on the condition of anonymity said this
organisation would be a real help as mostly the husbands are blamed
for all wrong doings because the women here enjoy a special status
in the society.

"My wife has sought a divorce from me just because I couldn't
tolerate the increasing interventions of my in-laws. When I asked
them to reconsider the decision, I was threatened to be sued for
demanding dowry and torturing my wife which I never did," says
Prakash, another victim.

However, Sangya Balya has earned some brickbats from woman activists
as well. "A woman can never create problems for her husband. When a
woman tries to maintain her own distinctiveness, she is labelled a
rebel. If you compare the statistics of atrocities on women and
atrocities by women, things would become crystal clear," said Deepa
Joshi, a women activist and a college lecturer.

Another women activist Neeru Swamy, asks, "Neither do women rape,
nor do they demand dowry. And they hardly ever seek divorce. Then
how come a husband becomes a victim of his wife's atrocities?

BRAVE GIRL

Those days are gone, when we got raped, kept mum fearing shame.

Here is High dose for men.

Sunita

New Delhi, Oct. 18: AN 18-YEAR-OLD girl paid a terrible price for being gullible: four youths gangraped her after promising her a job, a house and much-needed help to settle down in a city she had just arrived in. However, her remarkable agility saw the rapists behind bars.

On Monday, the girl had taken a bus from her hometown, Modinagar, and got down at the ISBT around 4 p.m. She then reached the Roshanara Road roundabout, where she was spotted by one of the rapists, Jatin Handa, who was in his car.

"May I help you," he told the girl, assuring her that he would take her to a few places where she could put up. A glib talker, Handa got her into the car. They checked out a few places. By now, the girl was convinced that Handa was one of those rare people who went out of their way to help those in distress.

Soon, it was dark and Handa took her home, where he raped her. Worse, he invited three of his friends to join him.

The culprits then drove off with the girl to the ISBT where they freed her. The girl immediately took an auto and followed the car, took down the car number and went to the police. The Subzi Mandi police arrested the four rapists, but not before fighting with the Kashmere Gate police over jurisdiction.

Both stations said the scene of crime came under the purview of the other, as the rape victim waited anxiously. There was hardly any confusion over which police station should have acted on the case the accused's home where the girl was raped was right behind the Subzi Mandi police station.

All the accused belong to well-todo families and one of them is the son of a local political leader.

Handa brought the girl to his office-cum-residence in Gali Thane Wali, Roshanara Road. His three friends identified as Chanakya Dua, Gaurav Gandhi, both aged 21, and Prateek alias Sunny, 18, then joined him. Handa is married. His elder brother, Kamal, has denied he was involved in the crime. "It is impossible for someone to rape a girl inside the house. We would have been alerted. Even the colony guard would have been alerted," he claimed.

HTN

Iraq Hero Knifed To Death By A Former Girlfriend

WAR Hero, still nothing in front of women, thats called WOMEN Power.

http://www.mangalorean.com/news.php?newsid=19832&newstype=local

London, Oct. 18: A jealous woman knifed her ex-hero to death after he accidentally called her by the name of his new girl, a court heard.

Blonde waitress Danielle Bradley plunged a long kitchen knife into Royal Marine James Swallow’s heart.

They had ended their year-long affair three months earlier and Iraq War commando James, 23, had started a new relationship with a girl called Vicky in his home city of Leeds.

But James, one of the first British troops ashore in the 2003 invasion, met Bradley, 26, by accident while on a night out in Plymouth where he was based.

Prosecutor Sarah Munro QC told Exeter Crown Court he stopped off briefly at her home while returning to barracks.

They pair hugged and all was fine until James called Bradley “Vicky” in a slip of the tongue. Miss Munro said: “Danielle Bradley stabbed her ex-boyfriend with a large knife in the chest and killed him.

“She did so in the bedroom of her home in a moment of what we say was jealous rage because he had accidentally called her by the name of his new girlfriend.

“As he prepared to leave her home, having called a taxi, she took the knife from a drawer of her bedside table and plunged it straight through his heart without a word of warning.”

Bradley, who has a five-year-old daughter, was found by James’s body, sobbing: “I didn’t mean it. What have I done.” Miss Munro went on: “She told police he was a real gentleman and one of the nicest people she ever met.

“No one had a bad word to say against him. He was a thoroughly decent young man.”

The couple split because he did not want to settle down in Plymouth and wanted to spend more time in Leeds. Bradley admits manslaughter but denies murder. She says she attempted to harm herself and accidentally stabbed James as he tried to stop her.

But Miss Munro told the jury that James’s 18cm deep wound would have required “moderate force”.

The case continues.

Mumbai Mirror

Youth Paraded For Rape Bid

I Wanted to cut his Organ, unfortunatly they just paraded him naked.   Sunita   New Delhi: Youth Paraded For Rape Bid
New Delhi, Oct. 18:  Residents of a village here on Monday tried to “teach a lesson” to a man for allegedly attempting to rape a girl, by parading him in the streets after garlanding him with shoes. Podha (25) allegedly tried to commit the crime when the girl went to the fields at village Rasulpur in on Monday morning, police said. Villagers, however, captured and garlanded him with shoes and took him around the village, they added. “We decided to teach him a lesson so that others like him would feel shameful to do anything like this,” the villagers said.   The villagers also declared the girl, the man’s sister. PTI http://www.mangalorean.com/news.php?newstype=local&newsid=19830&PHPSESSID=c03d915a91847f7d7e48f9b98457972a

WANTS of IndianWomen [ Demand ]

We indian women already have some Laws favoring us, still we want more to make Equality among men.

1]. When we marry, husband has to transfer half of the property in our name.

2]. His Parents should not stay with us,husband has to move to seperate new house.

3]. If women is working also, husband should not ask money(her Salary).

4]. Selection of sex and children should be with wife.

5]. Choice of abortion should be with women,if husband force her,he should eb punished with murder charges.

6]. Child sex check should be legalised.

7]. Women should not be get arrested, for whatsoever reason, there should be some man to provoke her to commit such crime, he should be punished instead women.

8]. Man divorce petitions should not be entertained,it should delayed by at least 7 years.

9]. If women file for divorce, it should granted within 6 months giving her all her Expensus / Alimony and free government support.

10].If man is answering any women petitions, his immediatly relatives like parents and sisters should be arrested to make him be present in court.

11].Child custody should be granted to mother only.Father should not be allowed visitation for childs healthy growth.

12].Father should deposit 50,000 Rs in childs name as soon as child birth. 1 lakh if child is girl.

13].Women parents should come and stay with thier daughter as soon as she is get pregnent.

14].Father should sign Child custody papers in his wifes name,as soon as child born to avoid child custody case.

15].In Rape conviction Man sex organ should be cut into half, so in future he will never make same mistake again, and remember it Everyday when he urinate.

16].In marrisage man should give financial guarantee for women, and keep some fix amount in her name.

17].In dowry charges mans all property and assets should be frozen.

18].Husband or his parents should not tell DIL, what to wear or what to do, this will creat tension and problem in family.she has rights to do as she like.

19].Man should equally share domestic work.

20].Wife should get salary if she is housewife.

21].She should have seperate Account.

22].Man should not deny wifes family visitation and he should entertain them.

23].Man should bear expensus of study and marriage if wife has younger bother, sisters.

24].After age of 60 of wifes parents,should be allowed to stay with thier daughter legally.

25].Wife can deny sex or withold without reason.

26].Man never deny or say no to sex, as he is stronger sex.if he deny,thats should be valid reason for divorce.

3801 New Cases under IPC-498A

BRAVO Andhra women, My Dream soon come TRUE.

All Other states Should follow Andhras Example.

http://www.indianexpress.com/full_story.php?content_id=79802

Parliament has passed the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Bill. We can pat ourselves that as a nation we have risen to ‘protect’ women, this time from domestic violence. However, can the legislation in the present form offer any extra protection to women?

The worst form of harassment is the condition which some women are subjected to in their homes. In our country, a woman enters a marital home leaving her maternal household. Most Indian women are conditioned “to enter and adjust” to this new surrounding. Many others face difficulties. It is here that they need protection. The abuse a woman undergoes — physical, sexual, verbal, emotional and economic — are rightly brought under the rubric of “domestic violence.” But the debate is about how effective, in practice, will be the protection envisaged by this bill.

This bill allows any person to give information in good faith about domestic violence without any civil or criminal liability. This will help in situations where the aggrieved woman is unable to reach for help. The information is to be given to a police officer, protection officer, a notified service provider (NGO) or magistrate. They, in turn are expected to brief the aggrieved woman of her right to seek shelter, home, legal aid, medical services, or file a complaint under section 498A of the Indian Penal Code. This is where the effectiveness of yet another well-intended law for the well-being of women becomes doubtful.

Prior to this bill, a policeperson and/or the Department of Women and Child can extend assistance of such nature and kind. But do they? In several cases, they do. The difficulty is that this task is one of the several other things they are expected to do. To get over this difficulty, this bill relies on the appointment of Protection Officers in every district.

Let us look at the implementation of the Dowry Prohibition Act. The state governments are expected to appoint an officer in each district for the purpose. Invariably, the revenue officers double up as Dowry Prohibition Officers (DPO). In reality, the aggrieved invariably seek police help, not the DPOs. What the DPO can do that a policewoman cannot is unclear.

The remedy suggested by the legislation constrains its effectiveness much more severely. If the aggrieved woman seeks legal remedy for the violence she underwent, it suggests section 498A of the IPC as the panacea. Several advocates feel that once action is initiated on a complaint under section 498(A) reconciliation becomes impossible.

Mother Abandons Newborn Girl in Hospital and Vanishes

I Pitty such women who abandon NewBorn GIRL child,

http://www.daijiworld.com/news/news_disp.asp?n_id=15411&n_tit=Mangalore%3A+Disappointed+over+Girl%2Dchild%2C+Mother+Abandons+Newborn+in+Hospital+and+Vanishes

Mangalore, Oct 16: Mamata, wife of one Girish from Kannur-Padil on the outskirts of the city, has reportedly abandoned her newborn female infant in a government hosptial in the heart of the city and disappeared. The incident came to light on Saturday. Informed sources said the new mother was extremely disappointed over the birth of a female child.

The woman is said to have developed labour pangs on October 14, followed by a normal delivery. Because of the normal delivery, the staff did not pay extraordinary attention. On Saturday afternoon, the infant was found wailing without anyone to care for her.

Not expecting a woman having delivered only a day earlier to be able to leave the hospital on her own, the staff would not believe that she had actually disappeared from the ward. Finally, in the night, the hospital authorities are said to have filed a complaint about her disappearance.

While on the one hand, the hosptital staff could not expect how her husband would react to the situation, it is also sure that without some outsider's help, she could not have moved outside the hospital.

This Happens in India - SomeDay...

I love to see such Days in india too, i have to Encourage my sisters today, otherwise these men will not understand.

we have to follow west in this ragard. Sooner or later i `ll such days, Women Rule Indian men.

http://www.canada.com/edmonton/edmontonjournal/news/story.html?id=e9c72d55-39d6-4fe6-8a3b-285b980a7459

EDMONTON -- Husbands and boyfriends are abused by their partners far more often than most Canadians realize, yet there is virtually no support for battered men, attendees of a two-day conference heard Saturday.

"All we hear about is violence against women and children," says Grant Brown, an Edmonton lawyer who helped organize the conference, held at the Edmonton Art Gallery.

"They just ignore the fact that men are just as likely to be victims of domestic violence. ... They just refuse to address the issue."

The conference, which highlighted the gender bias in Canadians' understanding of domestic violence, was organized by the Gender Issues Education Foundation, an Edmonton-based organization.

"Remember Wayne Bobbit? He actually became a comedy routine," said University of British Columbia forensic psychologist Donald Dutton.

"But we know that young women these days are more violent than their boyfriends. That's what the data shows."

While it is true that women are more often victims than men, Dutton says the number of men is not as small as many believe. According to his research, 4.2 per cent of abused women and 2.6 per cent of abused men report "repeated, severe battering."

He says researchers routinely ignore this fact because of pre-conceived ideas about domestic violence -- namely, that men are always the abusers and women are always the victims.

This unwitting bias in domestic violence research has influenced policing, custodial hearings and even public policy, Dutton says.

A researcher for 31 years in the field of domestic violence, Dutton was not invited to the Alberta-government-sponsored World Conference on the Prevention of Family Violence, which will be held in Banff at the end of the month.

He and organizers of Saturday's conference say that is a sign of the one-sided approach the province is taking to domestic violence policy.

Psychology professor John Archer from the United Kingdom's University of Central Lancashire also studies aggressive behaviour, and his most recent work also shows women and men are equally violent in relationships.

"More of the women than men were injured," he says, "but there is still quite a large number of men who were injured in domestic incidents."

Archer's study found nearly two-thirds of abused women suffer injuries, compared to roughly one-third of men. That number may be low, however, because men are less likely to seek medical help.

"You can't base public policy on half of the data," Archer says.

"If you're going to do something about partner violence then you can't ignore a big group of the victims."

We Dare to kill

These Indian Men want to marry more times, just for thier Lust;

But Beware men, We dare to kill such men.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/1257840.cms

NEW DELHI: Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. A 40-year-old businessman was murdered, allegedly by his wife and in-laws, because he was planning to marry another woman. Tarlok Verma's wife Anju (38), her father and two brothers have been arrested in connection with his murder.

Owner of a plastic factory, Verma was reported missing from his West Punjabi Bagh residence on September 30. His father M S Verma said in his police complaint that Verma had come from the factory around 9 pm on September 30, after which he had a quarrel with Anju.

Almost three hours later, the complaint said, Anju's father Puroshattam Singh and her two brothers Balwinder and Vijay arrived. The couple and the visitors had a discussion and later, all of them left for Puroshattam's Rohini home in Verma's Honda City car.

"When we started investigating, we found that Anju and her family were also missing along with Verma. They were arrested from Karnal on Saturday," said deputy commissioner of police (DCP), west, Neeraj Thakur. Anju revealed during interrogation that they killed Verma and dumped his body at Vaishali in Ghaziabad.

Two Birds in one Stone.

To all indian girls who are going to marry,you have to safeguard your future
for better life.

Today we have rights in Fathers Property,still it will go to Boys by default.
you have to fight for your rights, After struggle only you will get share in
Property, And you know your Fahters capacity, how much he can pay, if you are
not going to fight for your ancestors property, there is other way.

     When you are going to marry, ask your Future husband about your Fathers Capacity
about his money and property, and ask him to demand your share in the name of DOWRY.
Your Father will give without any resistence,as he has to marry off you.

    Try to get As much money as possible, because after marriage you will not get anything.
you have to work for your interest only. otherwise all property will go to boys,
and thier wives will enjoy your Father money.

    By that, shoot 2 birds in one Attempt.

    you will get Father Property, without any struggle.
    And
    You can trap your husband also.

As Dowry is Prohibited, and he is taken dowry from you, you can harass him life long;
and make him your pet SLAVE.No one will question you saying, you asked him to take Dowry
from your Family, Law always Blame men / Husband for that. Even you misguided him to doom.

   This is the Ultimate Secret i revealed so Far, from my WMD.

HOW IS IT MEN;

 WE WILL MAKE YOU DOOM SOME DAY. AND WE ALL KNOW YOU ARE DUMB. 

WOMEN Rules.

Sunita.

Woman Dicitonery

Yes == No

No == Yes Maybe == No
I'm sorry == You'll be sorry
We need == I want
It's your decision == My correct decision should be obvious by now
Do what you want == You'll pay for this later
We need to talk  ==  I need to complain
Sure go ahead  ==  I don't want you to
I'm not upset  ==  Of course I'm upset, you moron

You're so manly  ==  You need a shave and you sweat a lot Be romantic,

turn out the lights  == I have flabby thighs

This kitchen is so inconvenient  == I want a new house

I want new curtains  == carpeting, furniture, and wallpaper

I heard a noise  ==  I noticed you were almost asleep

Do you love me?  ==  I'm going to ask for something expensive

How much do you love me?  == I did something today you're going to hate

I'll be ready in a minute  == Kick off your shoes and find a good game on TV

You have to learn to communicate  ==  Just agree with me

Are you listening to me!? ==[Too late, you're dead   by Now ]

Men Never Understand us, thats why i`m writing it again.

Sunita.

Divorced man adopts surrogacy

NCW and All indian women, we need a New Law against Such Act, We should ban Surrogate Mothers who Help to get Child for a Indian man.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/1251145.cms

Divorced man adopts surrogacy 

TIMES NEWS NETWORK [ TUESDAY, OCTOBER 04, 2005 12:19:55 AM ]

KOLKATA: He is called Arjun. Born a day ago, and weighing just 2.8
kg, he nestles snugly in dad's arms. But he might never get to know
his mother. Arjun is the country's — and possibly the world's —
first surrogate child born to a single father.

Arjun's father, Amit Banerjee, is a divorcee and doesn't plan to
remarry. But he could never give up his desire to have a child. "A
child is always an extension of the self. I wanted to see myself
through my baby," said Banerjee, a tax consultant.

Till last year, he hadn't even heard of the term 'surrogate mother',
until a casual conversation with a friend veered round to the topic.
It struck a chord with Banerjee. If test-tube technology can give
women the freedom to be a mother without having to marry, can't a
man do the same? But could it be done?

Banerjee approached the Ghosh Dastidar Institute for Fertility
Research and underwent several clinical tests in order to determine
his health and fertility level. An advertisement was published in a
national daily to select a mother who would carry the embryo.

Twenty applications came in; only three were selected after a tough
screening by a renowned doctor. "Several counselling sessions were
held to gauge the emotional condition of the would-be surrogate
mother."

After the doctors made their selection, several psychological tests
were conducted to check the level of willingness, monetary status
and the educational background of the surrogate mother.

"In every session, the woman had to be accompanied by her husband. I
tried to determine that she did not want to donate her womb simply
to earn money. I could feel the surrogate mother had a sense she was
fulfilling a social responsibility," said Dr Sudarshan Ghosh
Dastidar, director of the Institute for Fertility Research.

Now, he is a proud father — a bit nervous, but overjoyed. He does
not fear of any social stigma and is ready to disclose the truth to
his son after he attains maturity. "Arjun should never feel ashamed
to disclose his identity," said Banerjee.

There was no formal monetary transaction with the surrogate mother,
but she was provided the cost of transport and medicines. Banerjee
also met her at regular intervals.

"During the nine months, there was a lot of anxiety in my mind. If
the pregnancy failed, the entire risk would be mine. And dealing
with the wife of another man was never easy," Banerjee said.

India's new worldly women

http://www.rediff.com/money/2005/oct/03bweek.htm

Pete Engardio, Businessweek | October 03, 2005

When the first American music videos and popular TV shows began appearing in Indian homes in the early 1990s thanks to satellite and cable, many pundits predicted Indian society would never be the same. For the first time, young Indian women saw a regular dose of sexy, scantily clad divas shimmying.

Female viewers also saw independent, successful women -- think Ally McBeal -- and fun, sensitive guys a la Friends. Sex and divorce were openly discussed in these TV imports and couples kissed passionately -- then still a taboo in Indian TV shows and movies.

Indeed, the impact on younger generations of Indian women has been profound. Whereas Indian women traditionally have been submissive to parents and husbands and valued frugality and modesty, a number of sociological studies show that young Indian females now prize financial independence, freedom to decide when to marry and have children, and glamorous careers.

Tomorrow's buyers

"A generation back, women would sacrifice themselves and believed in saving," says Nisha Singhania, senior strategic planning director of Grey Worldwide India. "Today, it is spend, spend, spend. It is O.K. for a woman to want something for herself, and people will accept it if she goes out into a man's world making a statement."

Because today's young women are the key consumer group of tomorrow, these shifts have big implications for marketing companies.

And the trends come out clearly in two recent studies by Grey Global Group. One study examined 3,400 unmarried women aged 19-22 of different income and social levels. Altogether, the project involved 40 focus groups in five large metro areas and five smaller cities.

In some cases, the researchers lived with the women for a while to study them more closely. The researchers supplemented this data with interviews of journalists, teachers, and psychologists.

Among the findings:

Guilt-free materialism. Fifty-one per cent of young single women in major metro areas say it's necessary to have a big house and big car to be happy. In smaller cities, 86% agreed with this statement. "This shows that the less women have, the greater are their aspirations," says Singhania.

One woman interviewed was making just $200 a year but said she wants to own a jet plane. "A typical comment in recent interviews was, 'I want money, fame and success,'" says Singhania.

Parental ties. Traditionally, parents regarded girls as somebody else's future property. They arranged marriages for their daughters, and then the daughters would go away and take care of their in-laws, so parents needed and doted on sons. "As a girl, you never spoke to your parents. They spoke to you," Singhania says.

But today's young women are rebelling against that. Sixty-seven per cent say they plan to take care of their parents into their old age -- and that means they need money.

Unilever played on that sentiment with a recent controversial -- but successful -- ad for its Fair and Lovely line of beauty products. A daughter came home and found that her parents had no sugar for coffee because they couldn't afford it. She became an airline hostess after using the Fair and Lovely products to make her beautiful. She then visited her parents and took them to a first-class restaurant.

Marital freedom. Now many women say they'll marry when ready -- not when their parents decide to marry them off. Sixty-five per cent say dating is essential, and they also want to become financially independent before they marry. More than three-quarters -- 76% -- say they want to maintain that independence afterward. Sixty per cent say they'll decide how to spend their own salaries.

What's more, 76% say they'll decide when to have children. "They now regard this as the woman's decision completely," observes Singhania. In big metro areas, 24% say they never want children, and that number reaches 40% in smaller cities.

Individualism. Female role models in Indian culture used to personify perfection, Singhania says. Now, 62% of girls say it's O.K. if they have faults and that people see them. "They don't want to be seen as Mrs. Perfect," she says. "Popular characters are Phoebe of Friends and Ally McBeal. They like women who commit blunders."

Careerism. A decade ago, most young women saw themselves as housewives. After that, most said they wanted to be teachers or doctors. "If they had a profession at all, it had to be a noble cause," Singhania says. "Now, it is about glamour, money, and fame."

A surprising 45% of young single females say they would like to be journalists. Singhania says that's largely because prominent female journalists, especially TV reporters, are seen as very glamorous.

Another 39% say they would like to be managers, 38% are interested in design, and 20% think they want to be teachers. Interestingly, 13% say they would like to be in the military. The per centage of those saying they want to be a full-time housewife was minuscule.

Modern husbands. "The relationship with the husband used to be one of awe," Singhania says. "Now, women want a partner and a relationship of equals. They want to marry a man like Greg of Dharma and Greg or Chandler of Friends."

A recent Whirlpool ad shows a man washing the family clothes before his wife comes home from work, while a Samsung home-appliance ad shows a husband and wife cooking together.

For Indian society, the changes in young women's outlook on life is revolutionary. For marketers, they offer interesting new opportunities to exploit.

Betrayed' Indian kills Israeli girlfriend

Jerusalem, Oct 4: An Indian national working in a hotel in the southern coastal city of Eilat has strangulated his Israeli girlfriend to death alleging that she "betrayed" him.

Kansal Sani, 23, called up the police an hour after killing his girlfriend Shlomit Elkobi on Friday and confessed to the murder. He told the police that an argument broke out between them over his suspicion that she "betrayed" him, to which she denied, a media report said.

During the noisy scuffle, he said that he caught Shlomit by her neck and kept her in his grip till she was dead, daily 'Ma'ariv' said.

The police chief said Kansal re-enacted the whole scene after they arrived at the scene. Kansal came to Israel in April last year from Mumbai and met Shlomit about a year back, when she was staying at the luxury hotel as a guest.

"A romance immediately sparked off between the two, which even led to the Israeli girl divorcing her husband to move in with Kansal in the same apartment," an Indian national working in the city said.

Shlomit from the northern town of Kiryat Bialik moved down to the south and also found work in a hotel to live with her new found love.

The Indian national, however, said that the going was never easy between the two during the last three months that they stayed together with frequent fights over cultural issues such as language, place of living and religion.
 
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US visa rules and frustrated Indian wives!

Washington, Oct 4: Thousands of wives of skilled professionals from India and other countries who come for temporary work, extending over several years, are increasingly frustrated because the visa regimes in the US does not allow spouses and dependents to work, however qualified they are, a report said today.
 
Nearly half a million H-1B visas have been issued in the last four years and about 300,000 visas have been issued for the professionals' dependents, who cannot work, according to a front-page report in The Washington Post. "Having a trailing spouse in today's day and age is not dealt with," said Immigration lawyer Elizabeth Espin Stern of Baker and McKenzie LLP.

"We have neglected these individuals and their families. It is an arrogant stance and an insensitive one," the daily quoted her as saying.

The backlog of applications for green cards or permanent residence visas which are the gateway to citizenship and which allow holders to work is now 300,000. A typical case is that of Hanuma Samavedam, living in the Greater Washington area. She came to the US after marrying her husband who is on H-1B. She has an MBA degree and experience as a finance manager at an accounting firm in India. But here she cannot work unless and until her husband gets a green card or permanent visa.

Advocates of more restrictive immigration laws say extending work authorisation to dependents would take jobs away from Americans.

Christopher S Bentley, a spokesman for US Citizenship and Immigration Services, part of the Department of Homeland Security, said that he empathises with immigrant spouses but noted that they had entered the US knowing their status would be temporary and dependent. "It is a choice they made," Bentley said.

The H-1B visas allow highly skilled professionals to work in the US for up to six years. H-4 visa allows dependents of H-1B visa holders to live in the US but they cannot work. L visa allows key foreign executives to transfer to the US operations of their companies while L-2 visa allows dependents of L visa holders to live in the US, who can also apply for work permits.

E visa allows people who work for companies that trade with the US or who have invested substantial sums in US ventures to work in the country for an extended period. Dependents of E visa holders may apply for work authorisation. Permanent resident card, also known as green card, allows foreign citizens and their families to live and work in the US, and paves the way for citizenship later if they choose to become citizens. But the process can be lengthy.

Last month, US immigration authorities announced they had exceeded green card quotas for India and China, probably adding years for the long wait for applicants from those countries.

Meanwhile, brides from India dazzled by the American salaries converted into Indian rupees are warned on another issue: Economists estimate that in major cities a family of three (husband, wife and child) needs to earn $47,000 to $62,000 a year to get by. And not all skilled workers earn enough to live a normal middle class life in America, without the supplementary income of their spouse.

PTI

http://www.mangalorean.com/news.php?newsid=19436&newstype=local

Filing Dowry Case is our Right.

Unless Every women file 498a aganist all men, this dowry ssytem will not go.

so i request all women out there, file dowry case Against your husband, True or false, so then others will understand not to take DOWRY.

http://india.indymedia.org/en/2004/01/208541.shtml

Eliminate Dowry Not Daughters!
By WSF IMC 17/01/2004 At 16:57

ARISE, Indian Women, Men forming Against Us.

http://www.dailytimes.com.pk/default.asp?page=story_16-4-2004_pg9_1

Indian men form harassed husbands club

Thousands of Indian women are tormented by dowry demands, but in a room crammed with dusty files an 87-year-old lawyer fields countless calls complaining of a less publicised problem: husbands harassed by their wives.

AK Singh bellows instructions to the men who call him and gives them the address of his dimly lit office full of cobwebs in a lower-middle-class part of the south Indian technology hub Bangalore.

Singh founded the Harassed Husbands Association in 1994 in the belief that while the spotlight was on abusive husbands, there are also many “poor men tortured by their wives.”“In India many wives take advantage of anti-dowry laws and file false complaints against their husbands,” Singh said.

On his motivation for founding the association, Singh said: “Fortunately there is harmony in my married life.”

But he said he became aware of the abuse of anti-dowry laws when he trained to become a lawyer.

“While in the courts I was moved by the plight of the poor people, particularly husbands harassed by their wives. This forum is not against women but against the provisions of law which favour them,” Singh said.“Many unscrupulous wives misuse the law and approach the police and courts completely forgetting it is their future life which will be marred,” he said. —AFP

Media Bring BAD name to Indian Women

http://www.taipeitimes.com/News/editorials/archives/2003/07/07/2003058417

Bitterness of wives leads to abuse of India's anti-dowry laws

Women's rights groups in India are concerned that vendettas by some estranged wives could bring India's vital and hard-won anti-dowry laws into disrepute

By Amrhit Dhillon
THE OBSERVER , NEW DELHI
Monday, Jul 07, 2003,Page 9

The entire Sharma family is stuck inside New Delhi's Tihar Jail -- from the grandparents down to the youngest child, aged three. This is not due to some rampant criminal gene but because a daughter-in-law has filed charges against them alleging harassment to extract dowry payments.

Roop Sharma says their son's marriage to Nisha went badly wrong.

"When divorce seemed on the cards, Nisha's parents began claiming we were torturing Nisha and that we were trying to get a car and gold jewellery out of them. But they just wanted to take their anger out on us and the easiest way was to get us thrown into jail on cooked up dowry charges," she said.

Such cases have prompted some Indian lawyers to question whether India's hard-won anti-dowry laws have now played into the hands of embittered wives seeking revenge on their husbands and their husbands' families.

Hostages

After the traditional arranged marriage, Indian brides go to live with the husband's family. Quite often she is then mistreated and forced to try to extract more dowry -- motorbikes, cars, household goods -- from her parents, even though the husband's family have probably already received something at the time of the marriage. The wife is a hostage, liable to a thrashing unless her parents produce the goods.

The anti-dowry laws were drafted to help women in this position. If things got really bad, she could report her in-laws to the police.

But a New Delhi high court judge, Sadhana Ramachandran, is seeking a review of the laws. She said they are being abused by wives conducting marital vendettas. They fling false accusations at innocent men and their families, to get even or to inflict pain.

"Such women incriminate everyone, not just the husband but the husband's sister or brother and parents. In the Sharma's case, the three-year-old girl ended up in jail too because, with the entire family inside, there was no one to look after her at home," Ramachandran said.

Ramachandran knows of 85-year-old grandparents in jail, awaiting bail or trial on dowry charges.

"It saddens me to say this, because in my career I have focused on the injustice women suffer in a male-dominated society but some women are misusing these laws out of pure viciousness," she said.

In one recent case Rajiv Sethi, 26, came back to India from South Africa to marry the bride his mother had chosen. The marriage collapsed and during the painful denouement, his wife Nandita, accused him and her mother-in-law of "mental cruelty" over dowry.

Lack of proof

"I don't even believe in dowry," exclaims the mother-in-law, Radhika Sethi. "I accepted the fact that their marriage wasn't working out but she accused me of starving her, of locking her up and beating her. None of it is true. My son is devastated at having to run around police stations and the courts. He's lost 27kg. She's ruined his life with a lie. But how can we prove that we were loving?"

There are fears that abuse of anti-dowry laws could lead to increasing scepticism about the numerous genuine cases of women being mistreated or murdered by husbands and in-laws. That would be a tragedy as some 7,000 women were killed over dowry demands in 2001.

In New Delhi alone, a woman is killed -- usually doused with kerosene and set on fire -- every day.

Radhika Sethi approves of the judge's call for a review and feels that a proper inquiry should take place before anyone is arrested to separate genuine from fabricated cases. Some lawyers also believe that automatic bail should be given in dowry cases (something that does not happen in all parts of India) so that innocent families can at least be spared the ordeal of jail.

But women's groups have reacted to the judge's call with dismay. The All-India Democratic Women's Federation (AIDWA) has written to the chief justice of India urging him to deny a review.

"It's taken decades for women to pluck up the courage to use these laws and now they want to dilute them," said Brinda Karat, AIDWA president.

"There may well be a few cases of abuse. But dowry-related violence is so horrific that these laws are life-savers for women and it would be disastrous to dilute them. Dowry-hungry men will think they can get away with murder, literally," Karat said.

Too docile

As it is, she said, Indian women are so culturally conditioned to be docile that very few actually invoke them. AIDWA says only 40,000 cases were registered last year -- "not even a drop in the ocean" -- compared with the violence it says women experience over demands for more dowry.

Lawyer Rani Jethmalani, who specializes in dowry cases, also believes that the number of false cases are miniscule. Marriage is sacrosanct in India, she says, and women will go to any lengths to save theirs.

"I know women who have gone back to their husband and in-laws even after they tried to murder them. Given this attitude, how many will falsely accuse their husband, knowing it means the certain end of the marriage?" Jethmalani said.

If the chief justice agrees to a review, AIDWA, the National Commission for Women and other groups plan nation-wide protests.

Men dont have guts to Face it.

Man ends life over  dowry accusation
 
   By: Rajendra Aklekar
   May 23, 2003

Traumatised by wife’s threat of lodging a false police complaint for dowry harassment, 27-year-old school teacher committed suicide by strangulating himself on May 19. His parents and sister also attempted to kill themselves by consuming a pesticide on the same day. The police say Janmojay Mhatre, resident of Uran, married Rajshri Patil a year back. There had been frequent quarrels between the two. Rajshri left the Mhatre household and began staying with her parents. Janmojay had been trying to reconcile with her several times. However, Rajshri threatened to lodge a complaint against him and her in-laws of dowry harassment and since then the Mhatre household had been under stress. On May 20, while Janmojay committed suicide by strangulating himself in his house, his shocked parents and 22-year-old sister Kalpana attempted to end their lives too by consuming Baygon Spray. Before attempting mass suicide, the Mhatre family had scribbled on the walls of their house that Rajshri and her threats should be held responsible for their death. A letter with similar text was also found in Janmojay’s pocket. While Janmojay’s parents are battling for life at Vashi’s NMMC FRU Hospital, his sister Kalpana has been shifted to Indira Gandhi Memorial Rural Hospital. The Uran police are investigating the case   http://web.mid-day.com/metro/vashi/2003/may/53693.htm

Court Order Against Women Complaint to Police.

CHENNAI: The First Bench of the Madras High Court has restrained the
Greater Chennai police from receiving and investigating dowry
harassment complaints without referring them to Dowry Prohibition
Officers.

The Bench, comprising Chief Justice Markandey Katju and Justice A.
Kulasekaran, gave the interim injunction restraining the City Police
Commissioner and his subordinates on a public interest litigation
petition filed by advocate S.V. Ramamurthy on Wednesday.

The petitioner said the Government framed the Tamil Nadu Dowry
Prohibition Rules, 2004, and consequently appointed Dowry Prohibition
Officers.

The District Social Welfare Officers who have been designated as
Dowry Prohibition Officers are duty-bound to accept complaints and
investigate them.

Stating that the role of the police officer came only when the case
was referred to court for prosecution, Mr. Ramamurthy said the Home
and the Social Welfare Departments were not implementing the law. .

Referring the complaint


Police officers can take action in case of punishment for cruelty by
the husband or relatives of the husband as it is likely to drive the
woman to commit suicide or cause grave injury, the petitioner said,
adding, "if a complaint to police relates to dowry then the police
must refer the portion of the complaint to the Dowry Prohibition
Officer who is to receive complaints, investigate and lay charge
sheet in court."

The Tamil Nadu Dowry Prohibition Rules provide for the designated
officials to mediate or conciliate with a view to restore harmony
between the couple and their families, the petitioner said.

"On the other hand, the nature of duty of the police is quite
different as they will investigate, take statements and launch
prosecution to get conviction."

No authority


Narrating his own experience, after being accused of harassing his
daughter-in-law, the petitioner said the City Commissioner of Police
had no authority under the provisions of the Act to receive any
complaint regarding dowry.

The Inspector of Police who investigated the matter had no power to
probe any offence regarding the alleged dowry demand, he said.

He said many persons were placed in a similar situation, and
added, "the dowry complaint has to be properly inquired into by the
competent government machinery and not by an officer of the police
department at the initial stage ... Otherwise, the purpose of
enactment of the Act will become infructuous."

He prayed for a direction to the Home and Social Welfare secretaries
to engage the services of the Dowry Prohibition Officer without the
interference of police officials and sought an interim injunction
restraining the Commissioner and his subordinates from receiving and
investigating dowry harassment complaints.

http://www.hindu.com/2005/09/29/stories/2005092916900400.htm

Injustice towards Indian Women.

Deserting less-earning hubby can cause trouble..?

New Delhi, Oct 3:  The Supreme Court has held that if a wife deserts her husband on the only ground that his income was less than what she earns, it will be a valid reason for the husband to claim divorce.

A bench of judges Arun Kumar and A.K. Mathur gave this ruling on Tuesday while upholding a Gujarat High Court order confirming a decree for divorce.

The bench said that total abandonment of marriage could not be justified on grounds of monetary consideration alone.

In this case, at the time of marriage in November 1992, one Geeta Jagdish Mangtani was employed as a teacher in Bhuj in Gujarat earning Rs.7,000 a month while her husband was working in Mumbai on a salary of Rs.1,400.

In June 1993, she refused to leave her job to join her husband at Mumbai. She put a condition that unless he earned at least Rs 5,000 per month, she would not join him, as his present income would not be sufficient.

A son was born to the couple in November 1993 after she had left her matrimonial home.

Her husband sought divorce on the ground of desertion and the trial court granted the divorce. On appeal, the high court confirmed this order after its efforts for a patch up failed as she insisted that her husband should earn more.

The court said that it was satisfied that both the husband and wife had no intention to live together and had decided to break off.

The present special leave petition by the wife is directed against this order.

She contended that since 'no fault divorce' was not recognised under the Hindu Marriage Act, the high court had erred in granting divorce on the ground that the marriage had broken down.

The apex court bench did not accept Geeta's argument that she had a reasonable cause for not joining her husband.

The judges pointed out that the parties knew prior to their marriage what they were earning. However, there had been no attempt by the wife to stay with her husband.

"In the facts and circumstances of the case, it cannot be said that this desertion on the part of the wife was with a reasonable cause. It amounted to wilful neglect of the husband by the wife as monetary consideration alone could not be considered as a reasonable cause to desert," the bench said and dismissed her appeal.
 
IANS

Dowry

A recent survey of 10,000 Indian women conducted by India’s Health Ministry found that more than half of those interviewed considered violence to be a normal part of married life—the most common cause being the failure to perform domestic duties up to the expectations of their husband’s family.

The underlying causes for violence connected to dowry are undoubtedly complex. While the dowry has roots in traditional Indian society, the reasons for prevalence of dowry-associated deaths have comparatively recent origins.

Traditionally a dowry entitled a woman to be a full member of the husband’s family and allowed her to enter the marital home with her own wealth. It was seen as a substitute for inheritance, offering some security to the wife. But under the pressures of cash economy introduced under British colonial rule, the dowry like many of the structures of pre-capitalist India was profoundly transformed.

Historian Veena Oldenburg in an essay entitled “Dowry Murders in India: A Preliminary Examination of the Historical Evidence” commented that the old customs of dowry had been perverted “from a strongly spun safety net twist into a deadly noose”. Under the burden of heavy land taxes, peasant families were inevitably compelled to find cash where they could or lose their land. As a result the dowry increasingly came to be seen as a vital source of income for the husband’s family.

Oldenburg explains: “The will to obtain large dowries from the family of daughters-in-law, to demand more in cash, gold and other liquid assets, becomes vivid after leafing through pages of official reports that dutifully record the effects of indebtedness, foreclosures, barren plots and cattle dying for lack of fodder. The voluntary aspects of dowry, its meaning as a mark of love for the daughter, gradually evaporates. Dowry becomes dreaded payments on demand that accompany and follow the marriage of a daughter.”

What Oldenburg explains about the impact of money relations on dowry is underscored by the fact that dowry did not wither away in India in the 20th century but took on new forms. Dowry and dowry-related violence is not confined to rural areas or to the poor, or even just to adherents of the Hindu religion. Under the impact of capitalism, the old custom has been transformed into a vital source of income for families desperate to meet pressing social needs.

Domestic violence against women is certainly not isolated to India. The official rate of domestic violence is significantly lower than in the US, for example, where, according to UN statistics, a woman is battered somewhere in the country on average once every 15 seconds. In all countries this violence is bound up with a mixture of cultural backwardness that relegates women to an inferior status combined with the tensions produced by the pressures growing economic uncertainty and want.

In India, however, where capitalism has fashioned out of the traditions of dowry a particularly naked nexus between marriage and money, and where the stresses of everyday life are being heightened by widening social polarisation, the violence takes correspondingly brutal and grotesque forms.

Advice to Indian Women.

Advice to Modern Indian women, who is going to marry and already Married.

How to Safe guard your Future;

You have A weapon to seduce your husband to get Everything possible.

Your have to cook good food for him, better than his mother. That’s only way bring him out of clutches of his mother.

Use your fertile 3 inch, to make him happy, so you can make him your slave, but use it reasonably, to get things from him. Once he is under control, you can use him as your remote control.

Try to get money from him and save in your personal Account, if you are house wife.

If you are working, do not give money to house hold things, its mans responsibility to run home.

Ask him to make more Gold and valuables.

Ask him to buy property / House / flat in your name.

Ask him to make Insurance with huge sum of Amount.

Tell him to keep his parents Away from your home.

Be with him whenever he talk to his parents and relatives.

Keep all his Bank Accounts / Savings Informations.

Take and Destroy all the receipts of valuables he buy for you.

Ask him to open joint Account.

Ask him to take FD in your name.

Ask him to invest in your name, tell him your name is lucky one.

Men are just Dumb, they will do as you  say, once you make them SLAVES.

Sunita

How to make Money From Marriage.

One of my friend wrote to me how she turn her marriage to mint money.

BRAVO Mukta, these men never understand, unless there are many brave women like you. Nisha Sharma got nothing, you are the number one Fortune Hunter.

Here is the some main things she wrote to me.

My name is Mukta from Rajindar Nagara Delhi, I got married to a south Indian man, he is a NRI, after Marriage I went to USA with him, I told him till i get Green Card, not to have children and he agreed, He was Earning well and I managed to send almost 5 lac to my Account in India in 18 months. Soon after I got my Green card, I came back to India after taking all the gold he gave  worth almost 10 lacs.

    As soon as I reach India, I filed dowry case on him and his parents in coimbatore, my dad has some political and police influence, so they sent Arrest warrant for them and they are on run, and my husband cann`t come to India to fight for this 498a.

    Meanwhile I applied for divorce and and 20 lacs alimony, lets see what happens.

Actually I wanted to  marry my Boyfriend, but my husband impressed my parents, so they forced me to marry him. I enjoyed 18 months stay with him and seen half of the world at his expenses. Now I have Green Card and after Divorce and can settle in USA with my BoyFriend.

Please do not tell this to anyone, this is for your personal reference only.

Sorry Mukta, I have to encourage other women, about your efforts.

Sunita

Helpless Indian Police.

Our Government has givin us so much Power and my sisters do not know how to use it.

Here is one incedent which Reported from our financial Capital Bombay. i would like to say BRAVO, my sister.

A woman parked her car right in the middle of the road and left to
take some articles from a nearby shop. A traffic policeman came and
objected over the parking. She came out of the shop to leave. The
police showed her that such parking is not allow in the middle of the
road. She instead of apologizing to the police, started grumbling
loudly in the public place. People surrounded them to watch the
incident. Suddenly, the woman told the police that she would pull her
saree out and scream that you are trying to molest her. The police
had no choice but to backoff silently. The police left her and went
away.

This is the power of Indian woman. The Government would be very happy
to see that women are enjoying their empowerment.

This is About our brave Police, what about other poor Men.

BEWARE All men do not dare to Tame us.

Sunita.

Pre Marital Sex.

       Indian men are Afraid if their Future wife is Sexually Experienced, As one of the Father said, “he is happy if his daughter,  have pre marital sexual experience”

That’s why Indian men make real fuss on virginity. They think their wife will compare his performance with her Ex boyfriend. Coz they will not perform better as husband. As most of the men are Virgin than us. Coz we find studs any time if we are ready, but unfortunately not for all men.

Whats wrong in  having sex before marriage, those olden days are gone, why we have to be virgin and wait for husband. Its our body, and we have rights to use it, as we wanted.

Even Kamasutra was written in India, but its useless, coz most of the men finish in few minutes, they lack passion, hardly few do foreplay. I do not blame my sisters if they find other man outside marriage. As I know most of my friends have boyfriends and also had pre marital sex. Their husband do it for their satisfaction only, they never check his wife is satisfied or not.

Indian Women also have to have some choice over their selection.

Sunita

RAPE and Punishment

I was Reading some other Posting of a user.

Here is Another Brave girl just 15 year old, used RAPE law to get what she wanted; but at least she managed to send him to jail and she is scot Free.

Read the Story here.

A girl (15yrs old) filed a false rape case against Kamlesh  Ahire of
Mumbai and police arrested him and was severally beaten up in jail.
After investigation, police found no evidence that Kamlesh is the  rapist.

The girl liked Kamlesh but he wasn't interested in her. She - out of
revenge - filed a false case of rape against him. Fortunately, police
failed to find any evidence because the accusation was false. Police
have released Kamlesh. Police have also said that they can't
prosecute the girl for false allegation because she is a Minor.

Infidelity.

Husband sent Divorce Notice…!

Don`t worry, you will get divorce, easily and Alimony too.

One worried sister Asked me…..

“My husband found out my Affair, and he has all my boyfriend details also, and sent me Divorce Notice, what I have to do. I`ll get divorce but i`ll not get any money from him. Please Guide me.”

I answered;

Do not worry, Law will make him to pay, and he will remember this, his whole life and his people will curse him for sending divorce notice.

She said: ok but what to do, and how to do that, I have no money to pay  lawyers.

Me: no need to pay anyone, Government will pay for you.

She: Ok then, tell me the secret.

Me: its not secret, just go to police station, give a statement that your husband was harassing you for dowry, make sure they charge him with IPC-498a; if you want to take Revenge on your mother in law or his sisters, Even they stay far away, pregnant and having kids, just name them. This Secret weapon will make him to beg for mercy and sorry for sending you Divorce notice.

You can add many other Charges coupled with this;

Just tell them, he was beating you and mentally harassing you.

Forcing you to have sex daily;

As much as more false words you add, that much fast he will come to his senses.

You can demand as much money in alimony on this.

Government lawyer will fight your case;

No need to give any proofs of this,  Indian Government and Law never ask women to prove any such false statements.

We are Endangered Species of India.

Divorce Row: Woman raped by husband and friends

New Delhi, Sept 27: A woman was allegedly kidnapped by her husband and his four friends and later gangraped in Lotdha village in the district, police said in Rajkot on Friday.

In her complaint to the police on Thursday, the victim, staying separately, said her husband, who had promised to give consent for their divorce, was involved along with his friends in the incident on Wednesday.

She, however, managed to flee from the clutches of the accused on Thursday morning and filed a complaint at the taluka police station.  

Two persons, including the husband, have been arrested while a search was on for the remaining three, police added.

PTI

http://www.mangalorean.com/news.php?newsid=19254&newstype=local

Indian Men, have Rights for child custody.

AS per new Bill, Domestic violence Act 2005;

Criminal Procedure to apply to offences under Domestic Violence Act
        The Centre on Thursday made it clear that the provisions of the Code of Criminal Procedure will govern all proceedings relating to offences under the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act.
        In a press release, the Government said an appeal could be made to a sessions court within 30 days from the date on which the protection order made by the Magistrate was served on the aggrieved person or the respondent (adult male person) as the case might be.
An offence
        It has been stated that a breach of the protection order will be an offence under this Act and it will be a cognisable and non-bailable offence punishable with imprisonment for one year or Rs.20,000 fine or both.
        While framing charges, the Magistrate might also frame charges under Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code (relating to dowry offence) or under the Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961. The Domestic Violence Act prohibits an adult male person from aiding or abeting or committing any act of domestic violence, entering the place of aggrieved person or aggrieved child, attempting to communicate with aggrieved person, alienating any asset, causing violence to dependents, other relatives or any other person who give or gives the aggrieved person assistance from domestic violence and committing any other act.
        The Act empowers the trial court to direct the adult male person to go out of the house and to pay monetary compensation to the victim, to grant temporary custody of any child or children to the aggrieved person or the person making an application on her behalf.
        The Magistrate shall refuse to allow the adult male member to visit his children and to direct the respondent to pay compensation or damages for the injuries, including mental torture and emotional distress, caused by the acts of domestic violence committed by that respondent.

So my Beloved sisters, do not worry about not getting Child custody, We have one more Law to get your child, Even if you Husband, Father of Child SAINT, still you will get your child. Just Accuse him with domestic violence, put some false charges,false Torture, mental harassment, Even he treated you good and non alcoholic, just Accuse him under Domestic violence Act. no one will ask you to prove about your FIR, indian Law think men always harass women, and Women are Victims only.

just do it, and you will get child custody and Child support too without much Struggle.

Sunita.

Indian men do not have Any rights.

West think, in India women are Exploited, humiliated and harassed,

They do not know, what is the TRUTH and reality.

No men in India has any rights. They are the BOSS of the home, they have wife’s permission to say so.

I Really pitty these men, Even Government is not suporting them.

In divorce also, Indian women has additional clauses for claiming divorce than men.

Women can refuse to do house work, and man cann`t force her to do so, refer Domestic violence Act 2005.

Husband cann`t have sex with his wife, he can be charged with marital Rape, if women withhold sex with husband man has no rights to defend him.

Now Indian women got Property rights too from her Father, still she can demand husband property if she divorced.

If marriage is end up in Divorce for wife’s fault also, man will end up paying her Alimony life Long.

Women can charge her husband with dowry Law and send all his Family members, his old age parents and pregnant sisters to jail, still she will not get any punishment for filing IPC-498a.

Women will get child custody no matter how good her husband is.

I would like to salute all Indian law makers, for giving us such a good laws.

Weapons of Men Destructions (WMD)

Weapons of Men Destructions (WMD)

These are not Atomic bombs, or guided missiles, these are LAWS given by Indian government to Indian women.

All these weapons are very well tested. No need to worry about backfire.

One of my friend (Married) was very much interested in her neighbor a Bachelor.

But she cannot force him to love her, as her husband was overweight and totally dumb in bed. She asked me what to do, and told me about her fantasies.

I told her, when our government itself show us way, why to worry.

There is Law, Indian penal Code 375 [Rape]

As per my instruction one fine day she called him to her house, with some reason,

Poor chap walked in his trap.

Immediately she locked door and tore her blouse. And told him what she wants.

If he does not do as she wanted he will in jail, within no time. Coz she said she will file RAPE case against him, if he refuse to satisfy her.

That is our Great Indian Law, which protect Indian women interest to keep them happy.

When women goes to police and says, Even she is wrong or never met the guy she is accusing, police will take charge and arrest him.

This is easiest weapon to get any Stud. With Government Help.

This WMD is sponsored by Indian government. Deadlier than Scud missile.

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IPC - 375. Rape

A man is said to commit "rape" who, except in the case hereinafter excepted, has sexual intercourse with a woman under circumstances falling under any of the six following descriptions:-

    First- Against her will.

    Secondly,- Without her consent.

    Thirdly-   With her consent, when her consent has been obtained by putting her or any person in whom she is interested in fear of death or of hurt.

    Fourthly- With her consent, when the man knows that he is not her husband, and that her consent is given because she believes that he is another man to whom she is or believes herself to be lawfully married.

    Fifthly - With her consent, when, at the time of giving such consent, by reason of unsoundness of mind or intoxication or the administration by him personally or through another of any stupefying or unwholesome substance, she is unable to understand the nature and consequences of that to which she gives consent.

    Sixthly - With or without her consent, when she is under sixteen years of age.

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ACT, 2005

All proceedings undertaken under section 12, 18,19,20,21,22 and 23 and offences under Section 31 of the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 shall be governed by the provisions of the Code of Criminal Procedure, 1973. An appeal can be made to the Court of Sessions within 30 days from the date on which the protection order made by the Magistrate is served on the aggrieved person or the respondent (adult male person) as the case may be, whichever is later.

The offence under sub-section(1) of section 31 shall be cognizable and non-bailable. Section 31(1) read as “ a breach of protection order, or of an interim protection order, by the respondent (adult male person) shall be an offence under this Act and shall be punishable with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to one year, or with fine which may extend to Rs.20,000/-, or both”. While framing charges under sub-section (1), the Magistrate may also frame charges under section 498A of the Indian Penal Code or any other provision of that Code or the Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961, as the case may be, if the facts disclose the commission of an offence under those provisions (Section 31(3)).

Section 32(2) makes a provision that the sole testimony of the aggrieved person may be enough for the court to conclude that an offence under sub-section(1) of Section 31 has been committed by the accused.

Section 12 deals with disposing of an application within 60 days of the first hearing. First hearing has to be fixed within three days of the date of receipt of the application by the Court.

Section 18 deals with the prohibition of the adult male person from aiding or abetting or committing any act of domestic violence, entering the place of aggrieved person or aggrieved child, attempting to communicate with aggrieved person, alienating any asset, causing violence to dependents, other relatives or any other person who give the aggrieved person assistance from domestic violence and committing any other act as specified in the protection order.

Section 19 deals with passing a residence order i.e. directing the adult male person to remove himself from the shared household.

Section 20 deals with the payment of monetary relief to be granted to the aggrieved person.

Section 21 deals with granting temporary custody of any child or children to the aggrieved person or the person making an application on her behalf. The Magistrate shall refuse to allow the adult male member to visit his children.

Section 22 deals with passing an order directing the respondent to pay compensation or damages for the injuries, including mental torture and emotional distress, caused by the acts of Domestic Violence committed by that respondent.

Section 23 deals with the grant of an ex parte order against the adult male person.

It is specified in the Act that if any Protection Officer fails or refuses to discharge his duties as directed by the Magistrate in the protection order without any sufficient cause, he shall be punished with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to one year, or with fine which may extend to twenty thousand rupees, or with both (Section 33). No prosecution or other legal proceeding can be started against the protection officer unless a complaint is filed with the previous sanction of the State Government.

WakeUp indian Women

To All indian women;

Now no longer, obey to your husband  and do as they command.

we have our rights. i just want to make all our indian women Aware of the Laws, which provided by our Beloved Government.

Domestic Violence Bill

Dowry Prohibition Act.

Sexual Harassment Law.

Men harassed us for ages, its our time to strike back.

we have international level Organisation to support us.

Be United.

your sister Sunita.