A good Womens rights and mens rights activists steps
Stage 1:
Faces threat of 498a ( Dowry), complaint under DV Law etc.
A person ( women or man ) faces direct threat of 498a ( Dowry) Law etc. due to some matrimonial conflict in relatives or with wife.
Seeing the helplessness talk to relative, neighbours etc., still thinking that probably theirs is a one type exception case. She or he is brainwashed like others because the press is filled with wife and women side one sided false stories( as Laws are drafted to encourage this) , and gender related articles are directly or indirectly written by Govt. paid feminists, who are paid to show one sided picture only for the sake of their Jobs.
Says we want justice, thinks to search for alternatives, gets to know about good women rights and mens rights organizations, through friends, press, or internet search.
Joins email group of SIF, calls helplines for self help or come to weekly meetings.
Stage 2:
Upset and wants to focus on victim help.
She or he wants quick solutions, wants justice for self and for others, is upset when the yahoo email group talks less about helping new victims but more about how to get the Laws changed . Himself helps others over email .
Gradually understands that it is impractical to help 10,000 new cases in Delhi alone every year, what to talk about full India . So understands the requirements of Law change .
( Those who do not even understand the Law change requirements drop out soon ).
Different persons take different Routes.
Some of the active activists take the friendship club route, and this is has shown results at least for the time being. Man is a social animal, he is willing to do things to be a part of group, to have good times and friends in a group. So they come to meetings , dharnas, to give company to friends, talk about sorrows, happiness, general talks, legal cases etc., like a Golf group or card group.
A significant % of lets say selfish type or those who do not understand the gravity of the situation, either do not come after 1st meeting, or come to some meetings to discuss legal points, till cases are going on.
Some realize that they have to tell their stories to press for social benefit, these give their stories to press, and at websites.They come to some meetings and dharnas , later they think that the gain by these dharnas or seminars is less compared to the time they have to spend . So they reduce their interactions with the group.
Some think I no longer have a case pending, I want to contribute to this cause, they find the meetings too cases centric, so sometimes stop coming to meetings, but are active to some extent in emails etc.
At some stage most people start Giving Good Ideas, thinking someone will have time to implement them but tille jun 2008 this do not happen. People may get Ideas from this, that can hellp 1 year later as they remain in subconscious mind. Sometimes the person giving ideas is fed up, that no one is doing the actual job, then he implements the Idea and that helps a lot for the cause.
Gradually learning stuff.
Careful about : If you start seeing yahoogroup emails in office, your office time will be spent, so office will suffer, causing harm in the long run . Try to check SIF emails after office hours only.
Step 3:
Wars were faught with spears, then arroys, then artilary, now in democracy it is faught with pen. Some move to next level and start writing Blogs . They usually take some of the regular Jobs of Dharna organizations , participations, etc.
Step 4:
Enough of blogging, I have good things to say, points to be made, press and officials that matter are not listening significantly . Lets register or Join Organizations, help in making web site .
Organize Dharnas , write press releases , interact with officials and press to learn about their thinking . Gain from experience. Try to network with other all India organizations . For example Vihan is mentioned as GHRS hero , as he does a quality Job of faxing to Media for Dharna , seminars in Delhi NCR . Become 1 job specialists.
The step 4 is dangerous also as once you spent significant time on the cause of Good womens and mens rights, your job start to suffer .
Tip : How one person do this is , fix time for this job, lets say 1 day a week and 1 hour daily max. Keeping job , who knows, can let you be more productive for the cause in the long run .
Step 5 :
The warier have matured to such levels that he can write interesting articles, do surveys etc. of such a level that the articles get published in Press. Has developed a sustained network of persons, like Govt. officials, or religious leaders, press etc. Understands radical feminists theories and plans and keeps track of these, through .
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