Stings of 21st Century Women

History is an interesting phenomenon. It says so many things yet reveals a little. As I am writing this piece, it is going down in history with every word I write, most probably to be inundated deep into the sea of obscurity. If at all it gets revealed, like many other lost truths, it will bear the interpretation of the discoverer. Very soon 21^st century would be history, and would most likely be remembered for progress India has made in terms of technology, economic power, military power, intellectual capital and WOMEN EMPOWERMENT. Yes, I am talking about women empowerment, the so-called biggest achievement of modern times, yet the biggest malaise to Indian Family. I am fortunate to be born in 21^st century, fortunate to be witness to the stark truth that would most likely be relegated to obscurity, revealed only to be twisted and projected to suit oblique interests. Still, I consider myself fortunate, because I can blog the truth in the hope someone, someday, sometime in future might stumble upon the truth written by a common man, for the history has been mostly documented by the state, the statesmen, the king, the ruler, the scholar, the traveler but hardly by the common man. This is an attempt to touch upon the hard truth of “Destruction of Indian Family” perpetrated by so called “empowered women - empowered to destruct”, the biggest achievement yet one of the biggest failure.

I am fortunate to be a part of “Save Indian Family” fraternity which today boasts of 600+ members (several thousands of related members). I am also fortunate to understand, through these 600+ brothers, the dynamics of 21^st century Indian Family, the truth that the “History” would conveniently hide it under half lies, half truth as it has done over ages by projecting women as victims and men as villains. Through my eyes and the experience of 600+ brothers, I would like to list down the traits of a typical “empowered 21^st century wife” (I am talking about 21^st century because I am witness to it, I won’t be surprised if this is the story of the untold history).

Typical Traits of an urban woman in most of the improvident marriages:

1.      Highly Materialistic: You are a money-minting machine for her. You are required to satiate her materialistic desires no matter how much or how little you earn.

2.      Marriage is a picnic: Don’t dare to tell her the responsibilities of ‘HER’ home. She is on a picnic.

3.      Nagging: Continuous nagging and cribbing to meet her unreasonable demands. Well nagging is a soft term, it invariably extends to abuses, insults, humiliations

4.      Her way is the only way: She is ‘empowered’ to do all the rights as well as wrongs. All wrongs are her right.

5.      Blame Game: Would put the blame of every undesirable and unpleasant happening on you and your family.

6.      Elder Abuse: Her family is of utmost importance. No respect for your parents and relatives. They are disposable.

7.      Big Mouth: Has a big mouth, wouldn’t tire of praising herself, wouldn’t tire of finding faults in others especially you and your family. Would resort to abuses invectives on a slight pretext.

8.      Adultery: She is ‘empowered’ to indulge in extra marital affairs, after all she is just satisfying has physical and emotional needs outside marriage.

9.      Hypocrisy: Master liar, master conspirator. Can backstab you anytime, time and again.

10.  Blackmailing: Would blackmail you using typical threats of leaving you, threats of causing physical harm to herself and apportioning the blame on you (she is fully aware of one sidedness of Indian legal system) or any other threats that would put you on defensive.

11. Unreceptive: Highly unreceptive to dialogues to resolve the issues. Reasoning with her is like banging your head against the wall.

Stings of ‘empowered’ women having some or all of the above traits

1.      Constant abuse, violent outbursts

2.      Severance of your relationship with your parents

4.      Stuttered/doomed Career.

5.      Financial damage in terms of alimony or SOWRY

6.      MOTHER OF ALL STINGS: 498 A. Typical effect is jail to you, or to your parents & relatives. You would be wondering what you did to attract this curse on you.

IPC 498 A has become the ultimate weapon in the hands of these women to wreak havoc on your life and its spreading like wild fire with little or no attempt from the people’ in power to control it. The chances are it will be remembered in history as a brave and successful attempt by the government to provide protection to women, completely concealing the true wrath of this law.

Anyways, history would speak its own story, but it should not stop us from taking due care of our present. Typically, what should you do if trapped with such women? Legally there is hardly any provision to seek relief. You can join ‘Save Indian Family’ brotherhood, one of the fastest growing self-help group with collective experience of thousands of years, that would help you, guide you and advise you on how to handle the stings of ‘empowered 21st women’.

Who knows we may even re-write the history?

Disclaimer: The views expressed are entirely writer’s personal views.

9:04 AM - Tuesday, March 21, 2006 - post comment